Where's the Geneva Convention of love?

Sorry about the crappy title. Just go with me on this one.

“I think he really loves her too,” said a well meaning friend, as if tht statement explained or justified his part in the affair, or that in some bizarre way I should feel sorry for him, or empathise with him during this difficult period.

Well fuck off I don’t.

Should we be telling the Aborigines, that we understand that they are sad about losing their land and their culture, but that white people really love Australia too.  Would we then expect them to turn around and say, “Oh, well that changes everything, please feel free to shaft us in perpetuity”?  No we wouldn’t.

Do we expect the relatives of the Americans blown up on September 11^th to really give a shit about the suffering their leaders may or may not have inflicted on the Middle East thanks to their decades long foreign policy of meddling in the internal affairs of so-called Third World countries? Do we expect them to accept, the resentments of the people affected by this policy as a justification for the killing of their families and friends.  Of course not...

Just because somebody loves something or wants something that doesn’t give them the right to take it.  We all know that we all know that there are rules about right and wrong but..

Sure, we talk about all parties seeing things from all sides, and we call for reasoned understanding, but we don’t really expect it.  We know that blood lust is going to rule, that hatreds will be handed down from generation to generation, because when you attack someone...

We end friendships with close friends because they returned a favorite book late or with the cover torn.  We fine people and lock them up for stealing teh most petty things yet we regard infidelity – the stealing of trust, surely the most dear thing we have – as something less than that.

We expect the injured parties in those cases to be understanding, to forgive.  “do you think you’ll remanin friends we ask?”  I mean really.  The only reason people stay friends after a relationship is because one or both of them thinks in the back of their minds that there might b the chance of a reconcilliatoin or a t least another shag.  Freindship between exlovers  on any othe rbasis than that is sick, as is any attempt by the injured party in a love triangle to understand or  make some sort of contact with the interloper.

There should be a l aw which locks people up for adultery. 

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There is no Geneva convention when it comes to love, or to put it bluntly there are no rules in love and war.  But there should be.

There should be many rules.

We lock people up for the most trivial offences against our finances and our property but we don’t do a damn thing about those who injure our hearts. 

You can lie to your partner and cheat behind his back for months, and get away scot free, even though you’ve probably caused him more pain than anyone else possibly could, but that’s not a crime.  Yet going round to her new boyfriend’s place, the guy with whom she had the affair and chopping off his hand with a lightsaber is.

I don’t get it.